Tuesday April 8th 2014, the Washington Post reported, “A newly released Pew Research Study examined the demographic and economic factors driving the rise in stay-at-home moms; a phenomenon that sociologists are still attempting to understand.”
After decades of decline, the amount of mothers who are choosing to stay at home with their children has been on the rise since 2000 while at the same time the percentage of working women started to decline. Researchers find these two facts “interesting and hard to understand.”
Can we Laugh out loud now?
Here’s some news for the baffled researchers…”Hey researchers, women want to be with their children! They don’t want to drag them out of bed at 5:30am, to drop them at daycare by 6:30am to head to work alone, while missing all the joys of why they had the children in the first place. Unless a woman has a fantastic, high paying job, or one she thoroughly enjoys, she will do most anything else to stay at home instead!”
I have said on my blog countless times, women want to be mothers and they want to stay at home. The working-outside-of-the-home-while-your-children-are-small system simply does not work very well for families. It does not work for the women, it does not work for the family, it does not work for the children. While the children are with other caregivers missing their mothers, the working mother is at her job missing her children and often before a mother realizes it, she “blinks” and the kids are grown and it’s all over, and she missed out. Regrets. After decades, these heartfelt regrets have happened to a sufficient amount of families and to a greater amount of women that now a new generation is saying, “ENOUGH” we’re not doing things the same way anymore. The trend towards mothers who stay-at-home continues because women are “fed up.” They miss their babies, they miss their hugs, they miss being with them and they don’t want to miss out anymore.
The day care/latchkey kids of the last several decades do not want to do the same thing to their children.
Finally the lies radical feminism promoted are being exposed. The all-encompassing career and the glamours of the working world have not panned out nor were they the best choice for families. The children who grew up “in that system” are making the change. The demographics can blame this trend on “younger mothers who are less educated” or on the “rise in immigrant mothers” adding to the numbers, but in reality, these research polls reflect the heart of where women are at: they want to spend more time with their children and if it means making sacrifices, then this generation is willing to do that.
What does it mean to be living with a Godly man?
This weekend as I was reflecting on the example my own husband has set for our family I realized the overwhelming blessing I’ve received from his faithfulness to the Lord. Because my husband walks with Jesus, we receive many benefits and the best part is we avoid the hardships other families suffer through.
My husband does not drink alcoholic beverages, nor use drugs therefore issues relating to drug or alcohol addiction stay far from my family. More than likely he will never get a DUI. I do not need to worry about him doing jail time or needing a lawyer to get out of trouble. I do nor fear an accident that might total my car nor a charge of vehicular homicide. More than likely these things will never happen to us. We also do not have to worry about drug addiction and the sorrows of coping with that kind of problem.
I am also thankful that my husband does not suffer with a porn addiction or any other kind of sex issue. I do not have to fear what he is looking at on the computer or worry about where he is, or who he is with, or if he might be having an affair, or that he might come home to leave me and the children for a younger, prettier woman. My man is faithful to me and because of that faithfulness, my children can rest in the fact that even though we might have an occasional difference of opinion, their parents are planning on staying married for life. Therefore our children will more than likely never be ripped from their home, forced to chose between mother and father or sister or brother. Their relationships will stay in tact and nothing will fracture relationships in this family, except themselves. I am hoping that they will carry their friendships with each other into adult life. So far, so good.
Christopher, is not addicted to video games or obsessed with sports. This means I do not have to worry about him being up on the internet at 3 am addicted to some game he can not stop playing. He might challenge one of the children to an occasional game on the WEI (which we hardly ever use) but our family needs not worry about an addiction. Plus he is a Washington Redskins Fan and does like to catch the game, but he is not obsessed with the sport like other men might be. We are not left high and dry during a sports season. He likes the game and knows who all the players are and if we are not doing anything does want to see the game, but we do not suffer “loss of time with dad” because he follows a sports team.
A few years back my husband suffered a health issue and it nearly devastated our family, but he took every part of his recovery seriously. He changed his diet, started going to the gym and he lost weight. Today he is maintaining good health and because we almost lost our father/husband, our family realizes the benefits of a father who takes good care of himself. We do not take that for granted.
Christopher Scott is a faithful man. For over thirty years he has supported our family every day. We do not have to worry about where dad is. We always know. Dad is at work and when he is not at work, he is home with us. Some families don’t know where their father is, other families never have meals together, nor stop and talk about their day. In other families their father has little to no input into their lives and time passes them by. Before the dad knows it his children are grown. It is so sad.
Christopher, from your love and support, we find life. From your walk with God, we find Godly Counsel. What more wonderful than the blessings that come from a faithful man, and from generations of faithful men. His father, my father, my husband, are all men of God and now our married son is one too. If ever there was a reason to follow the Lord, this is one benefit. To live with a faithful man. Thank you Jesus!
WHY FOLLOW THE LORD?? Because there are benefits! Psalm 103 says, “Forget not all His benefits.” If you are married to a Godly man, thank him for avoiding the pitfalls that sin brings and for the the blessings of a Godly husband!
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Over half a million pro-life people are marching today in Washington D.C. to mark the 40th year anniversary of the taking of human life in the womb. Fifty five million children have died so far, how long can we continue this great sin before the Lord?
Forty years marks a generation. We’ve done away with the young people of an entire generation, those who would have been our next leaders, and those who would have been a burden on their parents, or so the abortionists tell us. Today, the future of abortion hangs in the balance and America is at the line of demarcation.
Which way will we choose? Will we repent or will we continue this grave national sin or continue as in the days of Molech, and silently do away with another generation?
(photo: facebook march for life 2013)
I get so tired of the working mom vs. stay-at-home mom war that seems to emerge several times in every decade. It just reared its ugly head several months back when a comment was made in the media about Presidential candidate Mitt Romney’s wife staying home to raise their five boys. This comment from a working mother herself, got women everywhere up in arms over the choice to stay home or the choice to go to work. Back in the 1980’s and 1990’s Oprah Winfrey would devote entire shows to this subject. At the time, I was a full time stay-at-home mother and I wished I could have been her guest because in one statement I could END this war permanently!
I finally had figured it out, there is not a right or wrong answer for women. According to the Bible a woman can choose either route with her life, a woman is allowed to work. The Proverbs 31 woman who many portray as the perfect stay-at-home mother also owned a vineyard and went away on trips to buy things for her household. The Bible portrays her as savvy. I know some argue that a woman should not work when her children are small and I do firmly believe this too, but with the internet and the rise of Mommy Bloggers and with all the women who run businesses from their homes now, a mother could still be at home and be ignoring her children. Being home is not the answer if she is working at home and not emotionally or physically present with her children.
Yet the difference between the working mother and the stay at home mother is simply one thing….it’s the memories. What will she remember about her children when she is old and what will her children remember about her when they are grown?
Was she there to remember their first step, their first words, their first temper tantrums, the first time they pointed at a bird or discovered a dandelion blowing in the wind? Or was she in a board meeting working and a sitter captured these moments?
When her children are older, will they have these incredible memories of mom and stories to tell about about all the things she had them do and about all the places she took them and all of their experiences together or will they talk about these things knowing she was absent from most of their lives?
When she is old will she remember the day she became Vice President of her company and when she got the prestigious corner office because her merchandising sales tripled in one year after she nearly worked herself to death or will the things she accomplished in business, not matter as much to her as her family?
When she dies, who will have the great stories of life with Momma, will it be her co-workers or her children or will the family stand by her grave knowing that mother made a lot of money but scarcely knew them!
Ladies you can do anything you want with your life but when you are old is when it will matter to you which path you chose.
There is no war between working mothers or stay at home mothers…ONLY MEMORIES.
O.k. I’ve had it now! When the left starts attacking the greatest job a woman can do and tries to demean those who dedicate their lives to motherhood, I WILL NOT BE SILENT!
Get real? Do they really think we sit at home all day baking cookies?
I don’t know one stay at home mom who does NOTHING ALL DAY, do you?
Staying home is my choice and I believe it is the greatest way for me to serve society but it is not easy, my job never stops. Most days I am up before 5am, do my prayer time, check my computer to catch up on the latest news, emails, etc. and often spend time writing, then grab my iPod, run to the gym where I workout for an hour, then run home, jump in the shower, start breakfast, get the kids up, feed them breakfast, then start homeschooling while I throw in some laundry, contemplate dinner and the possibilities of where everyone will be at dinner hour. After fixing lunch, I am usually finished homeschooling my youngest and on to finishing the others. By 1:30 I am usually drilling vocabulary and spelling or helping a third child with writing and grammar. By 2:30 when the public school kids are getting home, I am just about finished and my afternoon of driving kids to lessons, tutors and activities begins. By 3:00pm most days we are out of here and activities go some nights until 8:00pm. Somewhere in between, we grab dinner as a family and then after dinner it is getting kids ready for bed and organizing the next day, all the while I have to worry about if I have enough money to spend for gas that day and if I can afford to make dinner that night? And the liberals say I know nothing about the economy? Give me a break! Stay-at-home-moms live in the trenches of the economy.
If you stay home, what do you do all day? Please share a picture of your day, because the liberals need to be reminded again that stay-at-home mothers are not worthless silly women who can’t balance a checkbook and have to rely on our husbands to find our way to the grocery store. R